Although I am grateful that I was born with dyslexia, this was not always the case.
We each have two wolves struggling inside us. One wolf is vengeful, angry, resentful, and afraid. The other is compassionate, faithful and loving. The wolf that wins is the one we feed.
Dyslexia forced me to do a lot of what is now referred to as emotional labor at a very early age. My dyslexia often causes me to re-arrange numbers and words in my mind. In grade school I used to pray the teacher would not ask me a question. Many times the back of my shirt would be soaked with perspiration by the time class was over.
The practice of doing emotional labor has given me insights, confidence and desire to serve others. The unconscious habit we have of raising our walls and giving away our energy creates the subsequent need for us manipulate and steal the energy of others. This reality is the root cause which underlies all drama, chaos and conflict.
The energy we surround ourselves with has a huge impact on our subsequent actions and results. Energy spreads like a virus throughout an organization. The willingness to practice emotional labor is required to develop our emotional intelligence. This is the antidote to victim behavior and the key to better results. There is a big difference between knowing the path and walking the path.
The following comments are from Ken Gans, IT Enterprise Applications Manager, Hitachi High Technologies America, Inc.
You could read this post every day for the rest of your life and have no clue about emotional labor! Like anything else in life that you want to get good at, it will take hard work and practice. A lot of it. And a lot more of it. So much work in fact you have no idea until you get started. That’s the key, get started and make it a lifestyle! I urge you to make a commitment to yourself to nurture and feed the good wolf as if your life depends on it. Mine did but at the time I didn’t know or recognize it. What a blessing.